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writes:I got a problem thats bothering me but I really don't want it to. I've been with someone for quite a while now but it's not a full on relationship more casual sex. Anyways he takes control in sex, which I prefer but now he wants me to instead, problem is I just dont think I can and would feel mortified giving him oral sex. I know I should compromise to please him and I do want to, I just don't know where to start! I cant really talk to him about it either as it's not that type of relationship. any tips?
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reader, Emilysanswers  + ♥, writes (14 April 2008):
If it's just casual sex then why bother? It's not worth getting upset over, and it's definitely not worth doing something you don't like.
Do you think he would compromise himself to please you?
If you are sex friends and want to try more things for YOURSELF not him... then ask him what he wants? It's not a huge relationship discussion to ask him in a sexy way how he wants you to take control. By telling you his fantasies he'll probably get all turned on, and you can tell him what you want him to do to you next as well.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Well, it's kinda hard to please someone if you are inexperienced and can't talk with them about it. Why are you mortified? Maybe you are just scared? If you insist on having casual sex with someone with no intimacy or discussions involved and still want to do this, look at some porn so you can get an idea of what to do and how to do it. Talk to your girlfriends about it. I don't really see this as something you have to compromise but something that you will eventually enjoy with the right partner- it could be that you don't have enough of a emotional connection to this guy and that's understandable.
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