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writes: My boyfriend and I have huge rows. I can't deal with him. He completly loses it-he is so aggressive and condescending towards me. He makes me feel so worthless when he's like this. The rows start over nothing.... I get so upset. And the worse thing is he never cares.... all I want is a cuddle and a nice word from him and for him to apologize to me when I'm crying my eyes out but I can't remember him ever comforting me.He thinks that by saying the words I'm sorry in the same tone of voice he uses when hes giving out to me is OK. The thing is if he gets upset during a fight I'm always straight over to him to wipe his tears and hold him-it breaks my heart to see him upset. I can't get through to him when I try explain how he makes me feel... does any one have any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, jessy66 +, writes (14 January 2006):
I to have an issue,where im not always a nice person,i lost a great guy because of it,but am know dealing with it,all i can say is for me my behaviour went way back to my child hood where my mother did not respect me when she spoke to me,i am ok with firends my children,but as soon as i get into a relationship this nasty side of me comes out,at the time i dont realize i have caused upset,i would suggest you give your b/friend the big ulimative that either he seeks help or you walk,i wish i was given that option,then i would have realize what a nightmare i must have been.
good luck hunny xx
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (14 January 2006):
 I would say that you need to have a long hard think about whether the relationship is worth you feeling this way. To be blunt he shouldn't be making you feel that way. People will always clash and there will always be times in the heat of the moment when people let fly with things they don't mean. However, this seems to be a regular occurence here and that is worrying to say the least.
You deserve better. You deserve consideration and concern and not to be made to feel worthless. Please don't fall into the trap of thinking that you can't do any better or are worth no more. You can and are.
If you do not want to end the relationship comfront him about his behaviour but be prepared to walk for your own sake if he does not show any willingness to try and change his behaviour.
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