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writes: I've just got back from a holiday where I met this guy. I met him at the same place last year and really liked him, but this year we hit it off. On my last night we were all cuddles, kisses and of course, snogs. His friend that was with him said that he like me a lot too, but I don't know if he'd want a relationship because it's nearly an hour's drive from my house to his, but I really hope so. Should I ask him what he thinks about a relationship or should I just leave it? I really like him. Reply to this Question
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reader, jojo +, writes (16 August 2005):
i would give it a go, what have you got to loose, and if it does work out you could even move to be closer together, at least you have the space between you to know if it will work, it will make the best foundations for a solid and steady relationship if you can get through the travelling and you will appreciate each other alot more than most couples when you see each other. Good luck take care jojox
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (15 August 2005):
 Holiday romances are often torrid and passionate, because both parties feel like there's a time limit on everything. You tend to feel everything at ten-times normal intensity, so do beware of that pitfall. The longing for getting that thrill back can also lead to a serious case of rose-coloured glasses, so be careful.
I don't think you should ask this guy about a "relationship", because that sort of question can make most men turn and run. What you might ask him is if he'd like to get together again sometime and see where it takes you both.
You have to be prepared for a couple of possible disappointments, though. The first is that he might not be interested in you outside of his holidays (or that he might already have a girlfriend!). The second potential difficulty is keeping a distance-relationship going. You need to think carefully about the fact that, even if you do remain interested in dating each other, you'll have to work around the distance between you.
So decide if these are surmountable difficulties. If they are, why not? Ask him out and see how you feel when you're both NOT on holidays.
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