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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 4yrs he is the love of my life, we recently had an argument and hadn't spoken in two months, within these two months he met this random girl and slept with her and now he wants to get back together and i am so confused do i forgive him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2005): Well, I had went back to this same guy over and over again. I ended up hurting myself more each time I go back. It's like I'm addicted to him. I loved him so much, more than my education and my future. Sometimes if that person is not good for you then it's totally not worth it. I guess if you guys get along. If he was always there for you and etc. I guess it's worth it to give it a try. However, if he was a bad influence in your life then I suggest you drop him. Sometimes when you love someone, you can't control it. But trust me, don't waste time on somebody that you know it's not going to work. It's your call. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, julls +, writes (16 December 2005):
Hi girl
I am sorry to say this but dont you think this guy would do the same everytime you have a fight? This is a decision only you can make. You know this guy better than myself and knowing guys, they are from the same father. He must have something not worth it in the lady he went with that is why he want you back. Girl you are valuable that is why he want you back, but that must make you go back to him unless you are sure you want to, without any guilty feelings otherwise forget him and move on. People get married and divorce after 7 years of sharing dreams. Decide girl but I dont think you would loose anything by moving on. The chance of being hurt by the same person is more. Good luck though
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): I am sorry this happened to you. If you both had problems and he needed space-but no 'official break-up' was discussed, then I think he was immature and very inappropriate to have sex with another girl. Sadly after 4 years, you now know this young man’s character and how he deals with love and committment. He doesn't sound very committed to you.
I think you need to re-evaluate and look at your criteria for future involvement with this young man, again. Relationships run into conflicts but most people deal with it maturely and stay true to their beloveds and work it out. Grabbing the first available body to use for sex is not the way. I really question his way of dealing with relationship problems? In your case, I would have a serious talk with him and in the future, expect more from the people you date. You can forgive him or say to your self-why go there again? He could do it again. This decision rests with you..Good luck
Hugs, Irish
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reader, brokenhearted +, writes (15 December 2005):
If you really do love him you'll forgive him!
4 years is a long time to go out with someone maybe he just had cold feet but that this time apart has made him see what he really wants!
He didn't sleep with that girl to hurt you, he didn't sleep with her because he doesn't love you! He slept with her because he was confused and needed that physical contact!! Its no reflection on his feelings for you!!
If I was you (and I have been in a similar situation) I would forgive! it depends on you though, inside can you trust him! if you love someone you should really be able to completely trust them or else it isn't really real love!!
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