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writes:Me and my husband have been married for over 15 yearswe ve had normal ups and downs over the years but nothing extreme. our sex life has been excellent usually every day sometimes more than once i had no complaints.i recently had to accept a job working the night shift then my life changed, i discovered my husband was watching porn on the computer i stumbled across this in the history when i was looking for something. At first i thought it was because i wasn t there but i soon discovered he would watch it even when i was there. If i would go take a bath he would be running up the stairs the second i closed the door, he sets his alarm clock earlier on the weekends and watches while im sleeping this upset me badly we only had 2 nights together and i got nothing cause he would get off watching porn.I thought if i could get days at work things would be better, they only got worse as soon as im busy he is back on the porn leaving nothing for me. In all the years we have been married not once have i turned him down for sex we even used to watch a little porn and read sex stories together. He always had his hands all over me now im lucky if i get a kiss only because i kiss him.Please someone give me some advice i have no one to talk to about this i dont know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): It's very unfortunate that I'm on the other side of the Atlantic to you, otherwise I could offer you some really practical solutions to your problem where you wouldn't be left wanting.I think you need to tell him it's either you or the porn, and that he can't have both. If he likes porn that much, he'll be willing to sacrifice his marriage for it. And if he was, that's where I might have entered the picture if I lived over there!
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (27 November 2007):
It seems your husband is suffering from misguided passions.It seems the nights you spent away really affected him and he turned to porn.The sad fact is that he's addicted and it has affected his sexuality.However,since you used to watch porn together,which is very healthy for a couple,he may have a logstanding addiction you never knew about.Your husband has turned to porn for sexual satisfaction.I would suggest you lovingly voice your concern about the lack of sex in your marraige.If he insists that everything is ok but continues to view porn,i woul suggest you seek the help of a sexual therapist to assist your husband.All the best.
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reader, Mothra  +, writes (27 November 2007):
Talk to him about it. He may avoid the issue, but try to have an adult conversation about it is step one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): he has a porn addiction quite common really. i too have watched a little porn now and then but if you want to get your man all over you again maybe you should do something out of the box. not anything crazy kinky, but show him that you are still extremely interested in him. wel either that or play hard to get like look real good but don't refuse him a little bit. make him chase you, as for the porn addiction, well you got some real competition cause some of those pornstars are dam hot. hope this helps
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