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Ways to make him ejaculate, except for oral and actual intercourse?

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Question - (10 January 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 29 August 2011)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have a boyfriend, and we've been together not long, but we have done quite a lot. It's been great, but for some reason, I can't make him actually cum. It's really bothering me. I can get him hard and everything but I can't get him all the way, and I was just wondering if there was anything I could be doing, BESIDES blow jobs and sex, because we're not quite there yet. Eventually yeah but not right now. Right now I just want to do something besides blow jobs and sex to get him to cum. Help!

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A female reader, Florish United States +, writes (29 August 2011):

Friction, pace, pressure and your tougue plus your hand which you have to make sure it is lubed. This is all you need to work and do = d magic.

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A female reader, chick2828 Australia +, writes (14 March 2011):

I have the same problem with my boyfriend, no matter how long we have sex of or how long i give him a handjob or blow job it's hard for him to get there. He has shown me how to give him a hand job but still he is not getting there

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A male reader, jtsecofsex India +, writes (22 February 2008):

most of the girls dont get it until they are shown how to gv a handjob.. this is cos they cant understand how a man feels if rubbed in a particular way.... to females rubbing any ways is still rubbing... not to worry this come with practice. ..firstly one hand is enough fr a rub.. apply some lubrication (massage oil is best.)then grip it with ur palm and move ur hand from the tip to the bottom... do not come backwards... this motion of going from top to bottom feels pretty much like an intercourse and he shld cum in some mins..... for more fun stop the action when he is about to cum... now he will be ready to go but not ready to wait... if u get this stop and play right then probably his cum is gonna come rushing out in the end .. if u wish u can the relish the soft stick in ur mouth after he is cumed... all the best..

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008):

To begin, it's not hard to make a guy hard!

And to answer your question...

This could prove quite hard, as to make a guy ejaculate it generally takes 3 key things: Pressure, Moisture, and Feeling. With your hand, you can only provide 2, and your hand isn't able to cover the whole penis. However, you should use both your hands, and starting at the base of the penis, move your hands up and down the shaft of the penis, applying increasing pressure.

Gently massage the head of the penis, and push very gently on the(urethra). Try making groaning noises, but softly, as not to give the impression you are enjoying it too much lol.

Play with his balls, and slowly pull them away from his body a little, then let go. This will drive him crazy.

Treat him gently, but apply pressure too! Don't forget the pressure. Let him guide you, if he moves your hands into a different place. Ask what he likes, or prefers, and mix this with other things.

Change the pressure and speed from time to time, to keep the element of surprise in it.

I hope this helps :] but dont be expecting him to cum through just 5 or 10 minutes - handjobs can take up to half an hour. But dont keep going and going until he does, as often it takes oral sex to make him cum.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008):

Are you saying you can't get him to ejaculate with your hand? If so, let me give you some pointers, many women aren't that great with handjobs becuase they don't quite know what it feels like.

1.) Use lubricant, and make sure to get the lubricant just beneath the head of his penis, I'll rate a few worst to best, Soap, Shampoo, Vasoline, Massage Oil, Spit (yes I know it seems nasty, but it's not really), but if you don't lubricate the bottom of a guys head, it can be quite unpleasant sometimes.

2.) Be patient, a lot of guys can go a long time, but keep his interest, talk dirty, show him something of yours or let him play with your body to keep his mind on the subject.

3.) Watch him masturbate once, (just tell him you want to see him do it, I'm sure he'll be happy to oblige) try to see if he's doing anything differently from you.

4.) Use the foreskin to masturbate, if his head is too sensitive for running your hand over the top, this also lets you go much faster without pain, simply grip the foreskin and bring it over the head and back again.

-- All that said, you didn't specify anal as being against your rules. (if you're going to do anal, use a condom and a lot of lubrication, trust me)

Or him putting his penis between your breasts. (again, lubrication, massage oil reccomended here)

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (11 January 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntImagine you are going to milk a cow...rub gently the tip,it is the most sensitive part.

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A female reader, girlwhoneedshelp United Kingdom +, writes (11 January 2008):

girlwhoneedshelp agony auntever heard of a hand job? if you don't know how to ask him how he masturbates and then do the same.!

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