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writes:i was so hurt when my boyfriend friday and said sone pretty hurtful things so i went on a dating site as i was angry and so lonely and i went on it and said about my boyfriend willy becausr i was so angry and he said my kids were mistakes am i in the wrong for telling another man hes willy was small and was it right for him to hack my dating account and read it, if im in the wrong what can i do to make it right or is it the end Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (28 August 2012):
 There is so much "wrong doing" in your post I don't even know where to begin.
Yes, you don't go around telling random dudes on DATING websites that your BF has a small penis, why on EARTH would you do that?
Yes, your BF is an total ASS for saying your kids are a mistake, WTF !? Who says that?
Yes, he was wrong in hacking your account.
Yes, you were wrong for HAVING an account still if you are in a relationship, why would you be on a dating site talking to guys?
Overall, from the little you have written, it SEEMS like you two have a very toxic and dysfunctional relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): Anyone saying nasty and hurtful things to/about anyone else in general is wrong, but we all do it when we're hurt and upset, that's the reality of it. I think if people don't want to have nasty things said about them, the shouldn't say them about someone else, but they do and there's consequences to pay for it.
Your bf is bound to log onto a dating site that you've visited since the argument out of curiosity, but I think now's the time to act like adults about this and do what's necessary so you can both live in peace either together or apart.
As you've realized, school yard name calling gets nobody anywhere.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (28 August 2012):
 Yes it was very wrong and extremely immature. The bigger question is why do you even have a dating account if you have a boyfriend? I have been in many awful, mean fights with many different guys and never felt the need to create an account on a dating site. There is no excuse for that no matter what he said to you. If it was that hurtful then you take a walk, tell him it was extremely hurtful, yell back at him, hell break up with him, anything but go on a dating site! Now regardless of what he said, you are in the wrong. Apologize profusely but it may already be over. Next time try to be more mature and handle a fight with communication. And if the guy is downright hurtful and mean then don't be with him, but don't speak of his dick size on a dating site....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): Everything mentioned in this post is wrong, wrong, wrong. There will be no trust in this relationship now with you going on a dating site and sharing info about your boyfriend, him not trusting you beforehand and you cant trust him not to snoop. There is a lot of immaturity in this relationship, you two should split up and grow up, im sorry but this was just painful to read. To answer your question it might not be the end if he doesnt end it from your dating site stunt, but it mise well be cause this stresses me out even reading this nevermind if i was in a relationship like this.
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reader, lalina +, writes (28 August 2012):
you can tell him you said those things about him because you were angry and apologize to him.
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reader, mistermann +, writes (28 August 2012):
It sounds like a case of six of one and half a dozen of the other.Your boyfriend was wrong to say hurtful things to you. You were wrong to go on a dating website and talk about his "willy" to another man. He was wrong to hack your account.I think you both need to sit down and have a talk about your relationship. There is clearly something wrong if you feel the inclination to go on a dating website after an argument. There is also obviously a lack of trust if your boyfriend feels the need to check up on you.You need to be honest about why you went to the dating site. Are you unhappy with your relationship or was it a way of getting back at him?If you are unhappy about your relationship, attempt to resolve your differences. If you don't feel you can, then maybe it's time to move on.If you were attempting to get back at him, then you need to realise that you were in the wrong, explain to him what he did that prompted you to take your actions and work with it from there.I wish you the best of luck.
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