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Was I just a rebound?

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Question - (28 February 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Me and this girl I was talking to for a month and a half are no longer speaking. I have no idea why but she just stopped texting me one day. I got her something small for valentines day and she seemed like she really liked it. At first it went 3-4days after that not hearing anything from her and finally I texted her and she replied saying she lost her phone and got sick.

Then we texted for a few days and now its been over a week since I have heard from her but I can't get her out of my head. I know a month and a half is a really short time but the best part of my day was when I could talk to her and the best time of the week was when I could see her. We went to movies and out to eat. When we went out to eat she told me things about her past that she even said "I haven't ever told anyone that before." Everything was going absolutely great!

In the last days we were talking she said that I was "good long term boyfriend material" and she "wants a long term relationship" with me and its just that anytime she gets out of a long term relationship her next one is extremely short. . And now we aren't talking after all that. Looking back I think I was a rebound thing but it still hurts me that we aren't even talking anymore.

Any idea of why I am so upset when I shouldn't be and how do I get over her? I know I shouldn't be this upset but I am :(

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010):

Hi. Hmm I dont blame you for been upset. Although you have only known this girl a short time it seems she has created a false level of intimacy with you. Sometimes that can happen in a rebound situation. I know you are probably feeling really confused right now but I would put it down to experience and get back out there and find a girl who is worth your time. This girl knows where you are if she wants to get in touch but if anything is going to happen you need to know that she wants you for you and not just because she is on the rebound.

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