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writes:Me and my girl broke up a month ago now for really knows what. She told me one thing in the breakup letter then later told me I was being too obsessive of her and she felt as if she had to make me happy all the time. We've been together for 4 years and we were so in love together, even wanted to get married and thought about marriage a lot.I've been trying to control my emotions during this time but I just can't help but get sad and depressed sometimes. Tonight I almost snapped when I saw her best friend's myspace profile with the default pic being a new pic of her and her friend looking all smiley and happy. I was nearly disgusted. I could never smile to any camera in the position I'm in. Could she simply not have cared and I was in love with a ghost the entire time? I'm going through hell right now and she was really rude during the breakup even though she said she stills loves me. I just hate her to death right now but I want to make sure there she's hurting for me too. I need to rid myself of these feelings of hate. Please give me advice on that and reassurance that she's hurting too.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 You should rid your heart of hate and vengeance. The fire that burns in you ,burns you more than her.
You should forgive her of all the wrongs she did to you and asked forgiveness from her.
In this way , you can start the process of healing your heart and pain and find closure .
Pray to God to give you the strength ,the grace and His healing powers be upon you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Hello lovely
Break ups are so horribly painful, and at the time it really does feel like your world has fallen apart. However, you must realise that you heart WILL heal, i promise you that. You may always care for this girl but the horrible sick/painfulness will go away.
As for her finishing it and saying you were too 'obsessive', i think she perhaps just needed some space.
Ypu need to start concentrating on yourself and making YOURSLEF happy. Go out with your friends, go to the gym/exercise-it really does make you feel better. Do something for you, something new that you have always wanted to.
Write a diary, I find that this really does help. write down your thoughts. I made a list of all my own qualities and the bad ones of my ex-this made me feel so much better!
Dont worry about the photo. Anyone can smile for a 5 second photo, it doesnt mean shes happy i promise you!YOU go and take some photos of you doing fun things.
It s you life and you only live once so please spend as little time as possible feeling sad. You are worth more than that :)
Good luck
Lots of love x x
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reader, clvx33 +, writes (5 April 2010):
 I honestly think you shouldn't be this hung over her. she probably isn't worth it if she just got up and left. I think that, being a girl, maybe she got scared by how much she loved you. that tends to scare people a lot & has happened to me before. I can promise you that she is hurting for you but is putting up a front to make you see how "happy" she is. Don't worry about it.
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