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writes:I really need ur helpIve liked this guy for ages hes single and yes i have slept with him a few times and saturday nite was about the 5th time and that was me staying at his house anyway when he got home late saturday nite he came into my bedroom (his brothers) and started talking and yet again we had sex This time i really wanted 2 suck him off and all he kept saying was he was busy well he was inside me, Anyway when he come out of me i sucked him off but he was soft and not hard in the slightest and wasnt even going hard at all with me doing this to him Now im thinking to myself maybe i wasnt any good, or he didnt even find me the slightest bit attractive or i just basically crap at sexthe thing also is im not sure if he actually cum inside me and i have taken an after pill But if he did cum would this make him soft as soon as he cum????please any advice hear i really do need it AS the the moment i think im not very good and not good enought for him thanks libby Reply to this Question
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (18 October 2010):
Its not easy having sex with someone who's not your bf coz questions on whether you're good enough always arise. Its different with your bf coz there's an emotional attachment, and they always tell you you're great and the learning experience of each other is comfortable and fulfilling. I wouldnt recommend casual sex with this guy coz it might bring down your self-esteem; you'll be trying too hard and you wont even be sure if youre doing a good job. Does he shower you with praises? As for him being flacid, its possible that he came in you therefore he lost his erection. I dont think it has to do with you being no good at sex. I hope you're not trying to win him into being your bf using sex: not a good strategy. And in this arrangement it looks like he calls the shots, when he says jump, you say how high. You need to sit down and think of your value-you're worth much more than what you are in right now.
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 i think he just wants to finish as fast as he can.and the reason he may be soft might be because he is thinking about something else.some guys just wants sex and when they had enough.they'll pretend they are enjoying so maybe you should cool it a bit and see if he wil come back.did you ask if he came in you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): It doesn't mean you're not good enough, there could be any number of reasons. If this guy didn't find you attractive he wouldn't be sleeping with you frequently. Also, you say you took the morning after pill? You shouldn't rely on that as a form of contraception as it's not as effective. It says on here that you're in your 20's, if so you should think about contraception other wise worrying about whether this guy finds you attractive will be the least of your worries.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 For many men, once they have an orgasm, they will be unable to achive an erection for some time afterword. This is known as the refractory period. Some men can keep going through it, but many cannot.
If you're having regular sex, you don't really have to worry if you're good enough. Do you two talk? The best sex usually comes when both partners communicate to eachother what they want and like. Get him to tell you what he wants. You may already be doing what he likes.
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reader, pup1234 +, writes (18 October 2010):
 well love forget about him hes just using you
sorry to be blunt,
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