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writes:My BF of 18-months recently returned from a three-week business trip to China. We met up within 48 hours of his return. He was exhausted and probably should have just slept, but we had sex, and it was nice, but he never wants to have sex just once. Twice - or three times - is our normal. But he was tired. So he turned on a porn movie and help him get up for the second time, and once he did get up, he continued to watch the pron movie for a few minutes.I highly suspect he did all of this because he thought he was pleasing me. Guys? Could this be so?But, it really shocked me and now I'm dealing with feelings that I never had before. I always KNEW that if nothing else, he was totally turned on by me. All I had to do was walk into the room and a switch turned on inside him that lite up the room. Now? Now, I'm a mesh-mash of feelings and I can't quite sort it out. I feel inadequate.Since then he has returned to normal and I try to tell myself it was something he thought he was doing for me. I know I should probably talk to him about it, but I'm still dazed and confused about my feelings. Men, what happened here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): I know I can't give a man's perspective, but from past experience, you're probably right.
Just talk to him about it; let him know that you really don't mind if he doesn't 'perform' multiple times when he's clearly tired. Talking really is the best way to sort most things out.
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