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*everGoodEnough
writes:My girlfriend is a really heavy drinker and is often violent towards me, her friends and even total strangers when she is drunk, she has promised to do something about her drinking many times but never does, its clear she never will.A few weeks ago she got violent and started hitting me in the face, after months of this I finally snapped and I punched her back and pushed her onto the bed, she got straight back up and was abusive again, thing is she has this whole 1-sided "honesty" thing with her father where she tells him everything she wants that makes her look good but nothing that would make her look bad, so she told her father that I hit her, he wasnt too fussed because he knows exactly what shes like but Iv had the rest of her family threatening me and leaving me abusive messages. Its like shes allowed to be as violent to me as she likes, but if I do anything to defend myself I get the rest of her family threatening to do the same to me, she says they have calmed down now and are OK with me but I know I'll never step-foot inside their house again, am I right to say this??
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (15 December 2008):
 If she is not prepared to get the help for her heavy drinking and continues to be abusive towards you when drunk then you may need to ask yourself what are you getting form this relationship now?
You have every right to take the decision not to set foot inside the house if you feel your life is under threat i really feel you need to question why your allowing this girl to be in your life you have already endured her wrath through drink and you have struck her it is wrong to use violence towards anyone i feel unless she seeks help this will carry on indefinitely you both need to talk over these issues and come to an agreement on where this relationship is going for the both of you take care.
Gina
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 I hate how if a girl hits a guy, it ok and basically no one cares, but if a guy hits the girl everyone wants to drag him to jail. No one should be punching anyone. You both are wrong for fighting, but she obviously has provoked you for a long time, and it doesn't seem like she's going to change, so if you're ok with an abusive gf then stay with her, but hopefully you're not, so you might think of breaking up with her.
Hope I helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Leave, you did something I guess you never would thought you do? now when you two fight, your both be hitting and that's going end very badly for one of you.
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