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writes: Hi this is for short and sweet, Thanks for replying to me last week (23 January), it was nice to know that someone else is in a similar situation. Just to let you know a little bit more about my problem, no im not seeing anyone else and as far as i know (and hope) he isnt (well i know he gave his number out to a girl in a club but he says theres nothing with this new person) yes we have slept together since we have split, on the now 3 occassions that we have seen each other. I actually didnt read into that too much, i mean sure i still love him and maybe it meant more to me then him but i didnt feel used, to be fair i wouldnt of done it (3 times) if i didnt want to. Although saying that I am still so confused, im starting to think that walking away would be the best answer, maybe go abroad for a bit but im finding it so hard, plus if i take that step then it will really be over and the thought of never having him again scares me to death. Thanks again for your advice, i will definatley be putting it in to practice. x Reply to this Question
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reader, shortandsweet408 +, writes (30 January 2006):
 Hey... so I read over the question again. Its only been 3 weeks! I am still dating my ex and not officially back together for 7 months! I don't think you have anything to worry about girl. I was in your position once (right after the break up) And things have only gotten better and better since then. We hang out every other day, just havin fun without a serious relationship involved. This is my opinion though, if you think you want it all or nothing then yes, I believe you should just walk away. But I'm just having fun with someone I love and there hasn't been a SINGLE set-back. Its all up to you two on how you handle this situation. I know my man and I know where we stand. We have set ground rules (not seeing other people) just not having to call eachother all the damn time and HAVING to spend time together is GREAT! I'm sure when I'm your age I will feel like I need a bigger commitment but right now I'm just having fun with him. So its ALL up to you... here's my advice if you want to stay:
Set rules/ask questions:
Are you seeing anyone else/planning on it? (NO)
Do you eventually want to get back together? (YES)
Are we "dating"? (YES)
The reason for the split if these questions are right is because of spending too much time together OR drifted apart and want to rekindle SLOWLY. Again... I'm going to tell you its all up to you, don't give a shit about what other people say, its YOU and HIM (and me of course lol)
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