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writes: My boyfriend and I are talking about getting married, but he lives in Shreveport, LA and I am from Alabama. He wants to move back to Texas where he was born, and I don't want to pull my roots from the 'bama soil. He says he's willing to compromise and move here, but then I am afraid that he won't be happy with that decision and that might cause problems for our relationship. I am a nurse and can pretty much find a job anywhere, he is a computer analyst and can find more, better paying jobs in Texas than he could here. What should I do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Topps +, writes (10 November 2005):
This guy loves you truly and wants to make you happy. Are you worried you will feel guilty if he comes to stay with you and does go to Texas? It is scary moving away, perhaps you should try it, set a time scale, rent for a while, if you really hate it you can both move back to bama. Although be prepared for being homesick, that is not the same as hating where you live. Where ever you are, just be happy that you have a man who loves you and is willing to move thousands of miles for you, really special and perhaps you should compromise too?
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (10 November 2005):
 It sounds like you already know what would be fair. If you want to have a chance at happiness in a marriage you both need to compromise, not just him. He has made it clear that he is willing to relocate, but you know that probably wouldn't be in the best interest of you both in the long run, financially. You are not married yet, while you still have your freedom to back out why not try living together in another state. Sit down and figure out where all of your options are and get a place together.
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