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writes:So I'm in a thing not quite sure what to clarify it as with a bisexual girl. We both just got out of a relationship her ex cheated on her and mine cheated on me. We went on a few dates and what was weird for me was we didn't have sex or even kiss after the first few dates. Wasn't until the 4th date when we finally kissed. And it was one of those that just happend. That night we did have sex. We kept hanging out and "dating" and all that good stuff. And then after one of our dates I asked her if I could call her my girlfriend. She didn't want to. Said we where just friends and we could still kiss and have sex and all that stuff. Which was fine for me I like her I have no problem waiting for her. Then she moved into a apartment with a girl she calls her girlfriend. They kiss all the time but the girlfriend says she's not into girls and they don't have sex. It doesn't matter to me I found it sexy. But now she went out on to dinner with another guy and that kinda bugged me. I don't wanna ruin what we have so I tell her I'm not bugged. Now they both want to get a house with me and my friend with benefit is worried I'm not gonna be OK with her going out with other guys. But ever since that day she went out with that guy she said she could tell I wasn't OK with it. Now she's been extremely distant and non responsive. Giving me the 1 to 2 word texts constantly when we used to just text and talk all day. I wanna be there for her and I like this girl. But I've been getting interest from other women. 1 I'm not sure if I should react to these interest seeing as I am technically single. I think. And 2 i want to talk to her but I don't know how or what to say to her. I don't want to pursue other women but I dont want to feel lonely and all those feelings. Any advice on if I should talk to her? Or what should I say? Should I pursue other women? Or see what could happen with the other women who are interested?
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reader, babalou  +, writes (11 November 2014):
 If she says she is not your girlfriend, she is not your girlfriend. If you don't have anyone that you call your girlfriend, you are single and able to pursue whatever type of relationship you want. This girl doesn't appear to be interested in dating you and has even said she doesn't so do not cling to her or the hope of dating her. She has made things clear. She is looking for fwb and fun. Her distance could be because she does not want to feel like she's leading you on since you have been acting really attached to her. Let her go. Loosen your grip on her and see other women if you want to salvage your friendship with her. Live your life and stop worrying about she might react to your choices because she is not your girlfriend and she has not shown any interest in becoming your girlfriend so it is safe to say that there is no need to "wait for her".
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