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writes:I am a 25 year old guy, virgin, and never had a serious relationship before, never been in love. I'm just looking for any advice or points of view. I started dating this girl a few weeks ago. I have no experience in relationships, but don't want to plunge in too quickly into something I don't know much about.I want to keep things cool for a while, a couple months maybe, don't want a boyfriend/girlfriend thing now. I don't want to appear as needy or clingy. I don't want HER to be clingy as well. The thing is that this girl is somewhat of the affectionate/caring kind. I don't want her to think this is going serious too fast. I don't want her to expect I should call her almost every day, talk for hours, give her gifts, etc.I want to keep things cool and casual for a while so please, if you have any advice I will deeply appreciate it. And again, please I don't want to go in blind with a heart fully open (sorry for the cheesy line). I am somewhat serious, reserved and coy. I am a good guy and a gentleman though! Reply to this Question
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (18 April 2011):
Maybe you need to talk to her and make sure you both understand the direction of this relationship. I mean, it will be an uncomfortable situation to talk about (potentially) but you cannot expect her to assume your thoughts just as you cannot assume her's.
Communication is key. Talk to her and make sure she understands that you don't want this to move too fast. Tell her that you are inexperienced in this and you don't want to get in over your too quickly. With that, if you are keeping it casual don't call her everday and be cautious in how much affection you display to her.
Make sure she understands too that, if you don't wish to see anyone else but just want to take things slow, that you communicate this with her. If you have never been in a relationship then she should respect this and be supportive.
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