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writes:I made friends with someone who I met through a dating agency. Nothing happened between us but we supported each other through some hard times. Now I have a boyfriend and I realise that he does actually like me and it feels unwelcome. He is paralysed from the waist down and is in a wheelchair and I have to treat him like anyone else, as I always have. However, I think I thought it was safe to be friends, maybe because of this, which is stupid perhaps. Of course he has feelings like other people. Perhaps I made him feel valued, but he did the same for me. He has no other friends really and I now see that I have become a focus for him. I find it hard to tell him that this triangular situation is not healthy, it is strange. He asked me and my new chap to a party at his house at which there were very people and hardly spoke to us although was not unpleasant. Should I slowly ease off, tell him how I feel or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 Honesty is always the best policy. If he responds badly to the truth now, at least he knows and can get on with his life.
If you want to go the easier way for you and to allow space and time to get your point across is not the nicer way. No one likes to be blown off without an answer why and often they will do anything to get that answer.
It sounds like because of this attraction it has messed up a good friendship. No matter what the outcome your relationship will be forever changed.
GOOD LUCK!!!
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