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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This petty argument is making me unsure about the relationship. I was driving home and I was stuck in traffic. I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone and somewhere along the conversation he asked me where i was going, and I admit that I wasnt aware of my tone and words and I said "Where else would I go? I'm going home" and he immediately got defensive and said "ok well I how was I suppose to know, maybe you were going to go shopping or do errands or something damn" and hung up on me. Usually when things like this happen, I say sorry right away but I felt like he sort of over reacted and if i was in his place I always would be like "oh I'm sorry babe I didnt know" instead of get defensive. So I call him back and ask him why hes getting for defensive and how I didnt mean it to come out like that. Then somewhere in the argument he says his neck is getting tired (because he was playing on his Xbox at the time) and just to call him when I get home. Near the end of the conversation I tell him I'm sorry and he quickly darts back "Well you better be" and I just lost it there and felt that was really hurtful. I was shocked and didnt know what else to say so I just told him we'd talk later or something. I just wanted to get off the phone as soon as possible.So that happened at around 4:30pm, its 9am the next morning right now. Hes was playing xbox with his friends last night and I feel like If i had a guy that really cared (because I have never ignored him this long after an argument) he would put that aside and figure out things with us first. Im really questioning our relationship right now. I dont want to call this time, but hes so stubborn. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2012): you shouldnt have snapped at him like that he obviously doesnt like it, if your going to have a attitude with him expect it back, you snapped at him for nothing and you peed him off hes not going to be nice as pie and say awwwh its ok babe, i didnt know, hes right you should be sorry, there is no need for it, hes not psychic and he doesnt know what your doing at all times, he was only trying to make conversation
if i spoke to my boyfriend like that i wouldnt expect him to be nice to me after id expect him to defend himself, in a relationship theres an element of respect you have for one another and if youve had a bad day or in a bad mood and take it out on him dont expect him to want to be around you ore want to be civil to you when your not being nice to him
call him, say sorry, this is just an immature argument and by the sounds of it there are more to come, if your unsure becuase of a stupid argument like this then you can love him that much
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