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This obsession really sucks

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Question - (3 December 2013) 1 Answers - (Newest, 3 December 2013)
A female India age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am in a happy relationship with a really nice man and everything is fine. It's just that I am crazily attracted to my colleague and I can't seem to help it. I sort of get butterflies in my belly when I see him and a smile from him makes my day. I guess he knows how I feel and so does everyone else at work. I've tried ignoring him but it doesn't work because we work closely together. This job is far too precious for me to quit. I need to get over him and lead a normal life but I go weak in my knees when he's around. Please help me. How do I get back to normal? This obsession really sucks!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2013):

You must not really be happy in your relationship like you claim. You're just contented to have a man. If things were so good, you wouldn't be so obsessed with a colleague.

Keep a picture of your boyfriend handy in your phone. Look at it when your co-worker enters the room. Remind yourself you're crushing like a foolish schoolgirl. The fact everyone knows your feelings means you are attempting to convey your feelings through others. Hoping he'll find out. Shouldn't you dump the boyfriend first?

If your job is precious to you, behave yourself in-front of other people. Keep your feelings to yourself. Be professional.

Fixating on someone makes you creepy, and makes the other person uncomfortable. He's being polite. The smile is forced; because there isn't much else you can say or do, when you can't escape. You're coming cross like a nutty lady; if you're staring at him.

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