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writes:I have a bf who had to move to another state 3 months ago for a job in the Oil Rig Camp. Before he moved we were always in contact either through email or phone. Well since he moved away he never phones or sends emails. The last time I talked to him was on Xmas day, and I was the one that phoned him. He sounded happy to hear from me, but then said "I was wondering why I hadn't heard from you." I also asked him why he hadn't returned any of my emails and he said in an annoyed voice "I haven't hooked up my internet yet". I find this hard to believe because if there is one thing I know better than anything about my bf, it's that he loves his computer and email. My question is, shouldn't the lines go both ways? And does anyone else find it strange that he won't phone me yet expects me to call? Should I end this?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (25 January 2006):
 It could be he is distracted because he is getting used to being away. Or it could be he wants to end it without having to do the dirty deed himself.
I would suggest putting your concerns down in a written letter and sending it by snail-mail. Don't be accusatory or defensive, just tell him of your concerns and feelings and wait to see his reply. Some people have great difficulty in trying to communicate verbally over the phone, and some are very much out of sight out of mind-they think only in the here and now-so they happy to hear from you but never seem to make the effort themselves.
If he wants to be with you he will get in touch and try to put you right, if not he'll be angry and accusatory. Either way you will know exactly were you stand.
Good luck x
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