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writes:A while back, an old friend, let's say his name is "Ted", and I had a brief fling that ended in me getting hurt really badly. One of my guy friends, we'll call him "John", helped me through it and told me he hated Ted for hurting me so badly. Now, they've started talking and have become really good friends. I know I'm wrong for feeling like this, but I just hate that they're becoming close. Ted hurt me, and I can't get over it. But every time I talk to him, I can't be mad, we just end up talking like none of it ever happened. I don't know why I'm upset about this, but I am. I feel betrayed by both of them. I just need someone to tell me it's okay to be hurt that John's becoming Ted's friend. :/ Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): Tell your close friend how you feel. Explain. I think he will listen and try to udnerstand you more. If your friend does not care, then I guess it's time to ask how deep your bond is really
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Your friend is just insensitive to your feelings. If they become close friends, there is nothing much you can do about it.
Maybe Ted explained to John and he accepted his explanations from him.
You will find it hurtful and unacceptable that your friend can be friends with your enemy or the person you dislike the most at the moment.
Maybe, you need to forgive Ted and find closure to this issue.
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