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writes:Hey guys im 16 and ive got a bit of a problem. for starters everyone is trying to split me and my boyfriend up because he's 13 and i no that sounds bad but we had a long chat about it and were not going to get too seriouse becasue of the relationship but no 1 will listen and i keep getting worried that he hates me and that he's going to dump me even though he tells me he loves me. Also am i being clingy? i mean i see him everyday but the moment were apart i miss him dreadfully and i can't stop thinking about him. and if i dnt talk to him for a day i get really down because i tink i've done something wrong. please tell me wats wrong with me. thank you any advice would be fantastic. Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (22 October 2006):
 Hey,
my advice to you would just be to take things really slowly. Does he look you in the eye when he tells you he loves you? If yes, then there's nothing to worry about. If no, then he's probably just nervous, because you're a little older he must feel a bit shy around you.
There is only a 3 year age gap, hardly anything as my parents have 9 years between them.
Don't listen to anyone else, follow your heart and listen to your instincts. I don't think you are being to clingy but you have to remember to give him a little space once in a while, gorwing up is all about having fun, and how can he tell his friends how gorgeous he thinks you are if you're sitting on the sofa next to him??? At the end of the day, if it's meant to be, it'll happen. You have the rest of your life to find love, so if you live to 100 that's around 84 years yet! So relax, and just take some time to think where your relationship is going. Small steps at a time and everything will be fine. Love is like a minefield, every step you take is a risk, but if you make it through with the one you love, then you know it's meant to be.
Hope this helped,
Phoebe xxXxx
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (20 October 2006):
 You need to stand on your own. When you are in love, it's ok to miss the person and want them to be close. You seem to feel empty without this other person, and thats not right. You need to be a complete person who is content with themselves before entering into a healthy relationship. Feeling good alone is the first step to feeling great with someone else.
Also, I don't want to sound like a pessimest but NONE of 85+ people I knew at age 13 with boyfriends/girlfriends are currently with them. Don't take your relationship too seriously.
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