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writes:there is a age difference of 7 years but been toghether 6 years and have 2 kids im 22 but he wants to be a bore and stay at home constantly and be like a old man and moan all the time, im at my witts end i dont think i love him because of the moaning what do i do Reply to this Question |
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reader, leavemealone +, writes (13 December 2007):
Hi, I understand completely how you feel. There are 15 years between me and my husband and we have a 3 year old. All he wants to do is sit in and watch TV. I am always up for a night out or a weekend away. I have recently started enjoying girls night outs and leave him in with our daughter. As Kelly said you have to get on with your life.
I thought he would realise he was missing something but it appears he enjoys the peace and quiet. Once our daughter is in bed he lies along the couch and watches the history channel.
Maybe you will have a different reaction and your husband will see you all dressed up and realise what he is missing and join you now and again.
Good luck and Keep smiling
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): OMG. I'm in a situation like yours too. Only I have one child with me b/f and he is 5years older that me. I feel soo bored too. I think it happens when you have so many responsibilities and so serious of a relationship so early. You start to feel like your missing out, and that he is holding you back for something. In a way I know I almost recent my b/f for it. Which is never good. You dont want it to get to that point. The time I have realized is you can go out with a bunch of your girl friends and have fun without him, if he doesnt want to got. It will relieve some stress off of you.
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reader, kelly.... +, writes (13 December 2007):
im in ur exact situation funny enough
Theres 6 years between us im the youngest and mines exaclty the same !!
I just go out on my own obviously its different because u have children but if he rather sit in the house all day u go and live ur life !!
Give the kids to him !
At the end of the day ur two different people and ull learn to live with it i have
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (13 December 2007):
 Well ... I don't think you stop loving a person because they're boring. =)
Love is a decision. That exciting stuff in the beginning was not love, it was your primal need to recreate making birds tweet all about your head.
Can you talk to him? Will he listen to you? When you fight, is making up fun? Are you willing to do something you don't like with him, just to be with him? Is he willing to do the same? Do you leave the kids with a sitter and go out?
Those are things that can save a relationship.
If he gives you the silent treatment and so you cannot trust him with your heart, it is time to go. If you have done boring things with him, but he starts a fight with you when you are supposed to do something that you like, it is time to go.
If you told him that you feel unloved and unvalued and he blows you off, it is time to go.
Think hard. If you have something that can be saved, it is far better than throwing what you have out the window. If it cannot be saved, than it is time to go.
Best wishes.
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