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writes:hi..i speak friendly and socially to all my classboys..but in front of me they speak as a friend and behind me they speak like they love me..this hurts me a lot..do i need to ask them directly or leave that way till they say directly to me or i shouldn't talk to them..???? Reply to this Question
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 All boys talk to each other about women to some degree when we are not around. Things they would never say to our face, some of them are even more respectful then others though. Those are the ones to avoid.
And if you can find one that refuses to talk about you that way at all with his friends or anyone else, then he would make a good boyfriend.
If you are angry with them though and want to tell them, just say to them I heard what you have been saying about me behind my back, do not pretend to be my friend.
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reader, rachel aniston +, writes (16 March 2011):
 you should ask them directly ,frankness is the best way to get rid out of such matters .tell them what u really feel and if they again behave like jerks tell them to get off your way,what i mean is that when people who act like being in freindship with you can't understand that you like them and you DON'T love them even when you tell them so ,then that means in short that they are "jerks"........
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (16 March 2011):
Whoa! This sounds interesting. How do you know they are saying these things behind your back? Do you have an informer with big ears who hears all this gossip? Do you give the classboys any reason to think they love you? Have you been involved with one or two to cause this kind of talk? And, at age 22-25, why do you call them classboys vs, classmates? Here's your answer - they are not mature, thus the classboys moniker.
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