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writes: I've dated a lot but I haven't seemed to be able to get passed the hurt I still feel inside- I feel that I gave all of myself to my ex-husband- my heart, soul, love-I'm afraid to let people in- I've even dated really nice guys but I always seem to push them away. How do I get over the hurt I feel inside?
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reader, Lzavmon03 +, writes (23 November 2005):
 Hi there, I kind of had a similar experience to you---what worked for me is forgiving whatever happened in the past (yourself and your ex--however difficult it may be) and live in the present. Of course, you should use what you learned in your past relationship to help you not make the same mistakes again, but you shouldn't make yourself miserable or keep on punishing yourself for things that happened in the past. You don't ahve to marry anyoen you don't wnat to; you ahve control over who you date and you don't have to give your heart and soul out to anyone unless they really deserve it. Give it time and have fun just going out casually--without promises or committment--just go out, take in a show and enjoy someone's company, give them a hug and you can go bacjk to your house happy you spent time with someone. You didn't give everything away: it's true you spent a lot of time with your ex, but it doesn't mean he was the one for you and you won't find anyone you acn trust enough to put all your confidence in again. I strongly believe we fall in love a few times in life and there is more than one "the one." You will find someone else, but as of right now, I recommned taking things slow and just dating casually and maybe going out with your friends in a group setting without the pressure a one on one date date can create. But don't worry--you will find that special someone you long for--most definetly and that hurt you feel now will pass--you've got to focus on you right now and what makes you ahppy. Develop your hobbies and talents--the important thing is to make yourself happy---time doesn't heal anything--it's what you DO with that time that matters--it's what you do that will heal you---and you acn do it. Once you feel better, you'll be better equipped to handle another serious relationship...best of luck, you'll be okay :O)
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (21 November 2005):
 maybe you should try taking one of those really nice guys to the next level. you could find yourself falling in love all over again.
good luck
~Robin~
aka advice gurl
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2005): You need to deal with the past relationship and how you feel about it properly as you probably havent dealt with it properly as yet .. once you can deal with this and move on from it then you will be able to continue and meet someone new and be happy with them having let go of the things still stuck in your mind.
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