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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now, for the first 8, my mum didn't know about it- at first she didn't take it too well but she was willing to welcome him in. After the first proper meeting, she proceeded to tell me he was "too polite" and acted like a 60 year old vicar. So I make a habit of not bringing him home anymore.I study away from home, so the weekends are the only times I could see him unless we've arranged to meet in the city I study in.The thing is, he lives 100 miles away- anytime we want to meet up, he has to travel. It's become increasingly more difficult as he's settling into a new job, so we are seeing each other less and less.I have some problems at home and study that are really getting me down, and it adds insult to injury that during all this I can't take comfort in my boyfriend's touch like I used to. Despite the fact we have Skype, phone and messenger.It's just not the same as a hug and a loving kiss.I have cried down the phone to him about all this, and I feel so selfish.The distance is really starting to hurt me, and I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): You need to make some kind of plans to at least move closer to one another. Long distance relationships can be good in the sense that they are a brilliant test to how you both deal with not being around one another but with them must be some kind of longer-term plan to become more commited.
With 10 months in to the relationship it does seem that you are going to have to do something about those 100 miles sooner rather than later. At least one of you is going to have to change something signigifantly in your life for the other person - and if you guys don't want to do that then the relationship has no future.
Talk with him about your options; I'm sure there are some if you think about it. All the best.
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reader, Dos_Vinci  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 If you guys split, would you find another guy? Would he find another girl? If no, then just stay together. It's better to be together in some form than no form at all.
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