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writes:I just started talking to this guy about 3 weeks ago. He lives about 4 hours away from me so he came to visit me for the weekend. And i have seen he sleep all the time. Every time we sit down for any reason he just goes to sleep. Even when we talking about very serious important stuff. I told him i dont like it but he still doing it. He seem like a sweet guy so far but i dont like that part about him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Beryl1167 +, writes (8 July 2013):
He could also have sleep apnea. One of my husband's friends has it so badly he has fallen asleep at the wheel twice, and just like your friend, every time he sits down he falls asleep. A sleep study would give the answer and it is treatable. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2013): Have you asked him why he seems so sleepy? I'm sure he has an explanation. There is really nothing we can tell you that he can't.
He may have what's called narcolepsy; which is a chronic neurological disorder, where the brain is unable to regulate normal sleeping patterns.
He may fall asleep during the day at any time. He can't help it. Sleep can come on at any moment. It is not a psychological disorder.
Some people with this disorder; also have catalepsy; where they may appear awake, but unable to move their muscles. It is treatable.
He may also be very tired from a heavy weekly work schedule; and very much deprived of sleep. It sounds that his visits are inconvenient for the both of you. So you may need to may want to keep your relationship very casual if you are unable to deal with his sleepiness. He has to drive four hours to visit, after working all week.
This might be a dangerous journey for him.
The worst case scenario may be, that he is extremely bored.
You may not want to plan too many visits, if that is the case.
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reader, dcgirl15 +, writes (8 July 2013):
This seems very bizarre to me. I would recommend telling him that you appreciated him coming to see you and that it meant a lot to you. I would then try to casually bring up the fact that you felt as though he was so tired that you didn't feel like you got a lot of time together. If it doesn't seem like you're prying, ask him if he thinks that he was especially tired that weekend from something in particular (stress, lack of sleep, illness). Tell him that you want to find a way that you both can get the most of the time you spend together. It's not "quality time" if he's unconscious and he's also not getting the best type of sleep he can if he's passed out in a chair instead of in a bed. If you like him that much, try to be rational, patient, and open to compromise when you speak to him. It could be that he needs to spend Friday at home before he comes to see you so that he gets a full 8-9 hours of sleep in instead of coming in at night after work. Make it obvious that you're not necessarily offended/being high maintenance but instead you're worried about him and want to find a compromise that's healthy for you both.Also, try to do things like having "serious conversations" on walks or in a private public area (like a park or a coffee shop) so he can't sleep.Hopefully the explanation was that he just wanted to see you so much that he decided to forgo sleep but couldn't keep up the energy level! Good luck! I know that this could be a bit awkward for you if you're left wondering what to do in the middle of a conversation he fell asleep during. Fingers crossed it works out.
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