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writes: Over the summer me and this girl became very close. We would talk every day and we hung out a lot and eventually I started to have feelings for her. All of her friends said she always talked about me and likes me but there is a problem. She and her ex-boyfriend (who knows I like her) are still very close. he three of us, me, her, and her ex, were all at a hockey rink at the same time and she said that she isn't going to talk to me or even look at me b/c her talking to me in front of 'the ex' would make her feel like a jerk. That really hurt me and I guess my question is should I even bother with her? She knows that she hurt me and it seems like she has no remorse.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (29 September 2005):
 What I always suggest someone do in a situation like this is to follow their intuitions. I know this doesnt seem like and ideal answer for you at the moment but trust me, its the best advice anyone can give you!! You cant be sure as to what and how she really feels for you and if she did that out of residual feelings for her ex or just plainly because she doesnt want to be a jerk to him. You can ask her and have a discussion over it but will she be completely honest with you?? Thats always hard to know. So as daft as it may sound, just follow what your heart tells you. Most of the time you go through life just fumbling and stumbling as you go along, thats only normal, but make sure you just learn from whatever mistakes you;ve made and try not to repeat them! Hope this helps!
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reader, MissMo +, writes (28 September 2005):
She probably knows that her ex-boyfriend isn't over her. Thus, seeing her interact with another guy would make him feel really bad. She might not be over him either, and might want to avoid beeing seen with another guy to keep up her ex's hopes of getting back together. Whatever the case may be, it sounds like a bad situation. Don't get with a girl who will prioritize her ex's feelings over yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2005): well,im sorry to say shes using you is it not obvious she cares more about her exs feelings than yours.youre ok to be with with this other guy has other plans.this girl certainly isnt your girlfriend,and honestly i wouldnt even class her a afriend.shes taken the peesh.
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