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female
age
36-40,
*egha
writes:Heloo everybody,I have requested same question before. got rejected for lack of information.now i think i will keep more information.Please help me.I have relationship with my husbands youngest brother. he is 20 yrs old. we are very friendly, that others in family get a feeling that we are toooo much friendly.I will give details-there is no particular hiding between me and this guy.we never had sexual relationship and we don't plan to. we talk about anything freely. he hugs me or kisses me some times. but as a matter of fact we have a sexual tension growing. we both know it. we discussed.we some times see each other without dressing. some times he changes in front of me and i too don't care much in front of him.on some occasions he told that he is very dry without sex and he wants to feel it. those time i helped him to do masturbate. this guy never try to take power on me. he is very friendly and cool.at the same time, our family views us with suspicion. people are now a days keen on what is going on between us. other than, i am very open with him, i never cheated on my husband. even i feel that this guy expressing his sexual desire is out of his age.I think I will tell my husband about these. i don't know how he is going to take it. family members interest in this makes me irritated. what is wrong with we be very friendly and in god company. kind people please share your opinion about this matter.
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reader, Regha +, writes (31 March 2011):
Regha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCindy,
our relationship is very close. some times i doubted that i am a person with two husbands. I can manage to keep away. but my brother in law will find it difficult.
i feel sorry for him. i dragged him into this. now i have to keep him away.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Painful why ?
Whom do you love, your husband or your brother in law ??
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reader, Regha +, writes (30 March 2011):
Regha is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni gave a hint to my husband. does not think it is good to share with him. so planning to keep it with me.
now i have to be hard to brother-in-law. painful.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 In my book this is cheating. You and your brother-in-law are disrespecting your husband with your harmless tickling play. There is more to an affair and cheating than sexual intercourse.
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reader, Regha +, writes (28 March 2011):
Regha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks,
i understand that people cannot accept me. my thinking is weird.
i think i tell to my husband. any suggestions.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (28 March 2011):
If it were a harmless ticklish play, why would you have kept it hidden from your husband and family ?
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reader, Regha +, writes (28 March 2011):
Regha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand that people will not stand with me. i should expect any supporters. i feel guilty. no wonder why family does not like it.
in my perspective, cheating is, an activity when I will feel not to face my husband. in this case 1)if i have a sexual intercourse 2) if i receive his kiss passionately etc.
this guy is in control, once he told me that he feels bad about these things. we promised each other that we will never have an intercourse.
i felt it all as a harmless tickling play. on occasions whenever i got to spent some time with him, i always found that i were satisfying my husband better.
thanks for all, i need to tell this to my husband. no secrets to be kept. praying that he will not bomb on me.
i don't know i am a bad woman. i tend to be open.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (27 March 2011):
There is nothing wrong with being very friendly with a brother in law, but friendliness has got nothing to do with performing sexual acts on him, or let him perform sexual acts in front of you ! That's not being friendly, that's crossing boundaries and cheating. Even if you like to think that this is not cheating- but I am sure your husband would see it differently.
I suspect you know it perfectly , nobody can be so naive-
" I feel that this guy expressing his sexual desire is out of his age " by which I take it you mean he acts this way because he is young... come on, he is a grown up man, he knows what is appropriate and what's not ! He is not a 5 years old little brother in law that wants to show his willy and see nothing wrong in that !
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reader, welsh  +, writes (27 March 2011):
You jerk off your brother in law/he kisses you and say there is nothing sexual between you and him or you are not cheating on your husband? Not sure what constitutes cheating then. It would be best for you to put an end to this. You do not have any future with your brother in law and are essentially messing up your marriage. You will be seen as the culprit rather than the brother in law.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): It sounds like your family have every reason to be suspicious of your relationship with your brother-in-law. You openly admit to changing in front of each other and helping him masturbate. In my mind that is most definitely cheating on your husband, how would you feel if you had a sister and your husband had been helping her in that way? If your husband finds out about this I imagine it will cause huge problems between you and him as well as between him and his brother. Finding this out may damage their, and your, relationship forever. I suggest you stop this inappropriate behaviour with your brother-in-law immediately and avoid spending time with him alone so you are not tempted. Concentrate on your relationship with your husband.
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