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writes: Hi, Im very confused about what do confidence means?Does it mean that you have to pretend, that you love yourself, even if you are not? Does it mean,that you have to show people that you are better and stronger than them, so they would not hurt you? Is this about pretending? I was reading a lot of self help books, and they suggested this to me, or I MISUNDERSTOOD IT. I also noticed,that ''confident people'' are selfish and many times not very kind to others. And make sensitive, nice people feel worthless. So, how I already said, I'm confused. What does that slogan means ""because you're worth it''. It feels to me, if you dont teach your kid from the baby age to his teens, to be a brat, who makes everybody envy her/him, you are a bad parent. Because if they are just ''nice'' everybody turns away from them and hurts them, because they dont know the ''confidence'' game. Maybe I'm just very disillusioned, but I see my nice kids suffer from this confidence culture, and I have my own problems from it too. I dont like this. Please help me out in my confusion.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 confidence means that you believe in yourself, meaning to make the right choices, to act where you're supposed to act, etcetera. Confidence is believing in somebody.Example: If you're confident that a sports team will win a match, that means you'll believe in that team doing the right moves and acting the right way and making the right choices to be victorious. It has nothing to do with showing people you are better or loving yourself even if you don't or any kind of pretending. Self confidence has nothing to do with pretending anything. It does mean that you believe in yourself but in order to gain self condifence you need to make lots of good decisions to start trusting and believing in yourself eventually.
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (18 August 2010):
does it mean be someone your not? you just be yourself forward and honest about who you are not someone your not!
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