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*weetgirl22
writes:My boyfriend and I are 8 years apart and things have never been easy. The age thing doesn't bother me one bit, however it bothers him big time. He says he wouldn't care if all my friends and everyone didn't know who he was (He was the construction worker at my high school) We have been seeing eachother for the past almost six months, and up until a week ago things were good. but now he is saying he wants time alone away from me, time to get his life and head straight. But at the same time he says we can still hangout and everything he has his heart set on marrying me when we are both older and now he jsut says he wants me to be older so he will wait. He says he doesnt want me to be with any other guys. so in a way it all seems like we are still together but now he says he doesnt want to be right now? help! Reply to this Question
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reader, sweetgirl22 +, writes (26 March 2008):
sweetgirl22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question to the response about him beinga child molester?
sorry hunny but where i live leagal age of concent is 14 meaning 15 and 23 is PERFECTLY legal. my mother does know and likes him very much, my friends know about him, and could care less, its my life. its his friends. hes worried about being "cut down" or so he says and i also agree wit the other response that if it was indeed age, why did he wait 6 months ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): sounds like a perverted child molestor to me! You're between 13 and 15 so that makes him between 21 and 23. Sounds like a molester to me! He's been with you 6 months already, but does not want your friends to know about him? He has good reason to remain annonymous to your friends and family....he's too old and could face arrest.
YES! He promised to marry you, because he can get you to do all the perverted things he wants sexually, by getting your mind wrapped up and around his sexual schemes.
Leave this guy alone before you wind up in a much worser situation then you are already in.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 definately agree with the other poster. after six months. if it was because of your age, he would of backed off before now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Wow. That last poster is Pessimistic.But she is right in one thing. He can't tell you not to be with other men if he isn't gonna get his act together. You are still young.I;m not saying he doesn't care about you in that way. But you need to get out there and go out with other people for now. The love will be there when you return to each other, if indeed the feelings you have a true.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Well has it occured to you that maybe he has another girl? You are yet so young and have so many years to go, are you ready for such commitment? What if you decided to listen to what he said and when finally things are okay he ended up not going with what he said? Dont be too attached, have some fun. if he gets mad, just say what do you expect me to do wait all my life for you while you on the other hand can have gurls? if im wrong then hey maybe hes just trying to make sure your old enough and until then he has to get his life better for you guys to "get married" but i really wouldnt count on that too much.
Girl you have a life to lead. Have fun. Dont worry yourself too much about it. Show him that if he doesnt want to be with you at the time, make him jealous and maybe he might change his mind bout not wanting to be with you at the right time. Be smart you know what to do.
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