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writes:My bf and i had decided to get married in 2 years but later he put it on hold saying his parents wouldn't agree to the match. He suggested that we should just remain friends. I had stopped picking up his calls to try to get over it. But after a couple of months he has contacted me and said that he still loves me and that he would marry me provided he can even it out with his parents and until then we should remain friends and keep in touch. But i am skeptical to the idea of keeping in touch - as it would leave me again in an emotional shambles if he leaves. Should i go ahead? Reply to this Question
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reader, niks +, writes (6 January 2010):
niks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for the suggestions. Even I was thinking of stopping all contact with him but for the fact that i still love him a lot. I still do not know if he loves me back or if just being polite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): I don't understand why he downgraded the relationship to friends status. You 2 should still be BF and GF.
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reader, juliaash123  +, writes (3 January 2010):
i think you should not keep in touch and date other men if he really loves he will marry you anyway. Dont give in like that if you want his commitment thats how you show him that you wont take it. He is going to be spending the rest of his life with YOU not HIS PARENTS. So if he really loves you and wants you he will come back. dont hurt yourself too much by thinking about him. think about improving you and your life and hell come around.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (3 January 2010):
 You are right to be skeptical. It could indeed be very difficult to marry him knowing his parents would be opposed. Incidentally, have you met them in the two years you've been dating? If so, have they given any indication to you that they would not be in favor of your marrying their son?
Anyway, he is putting a condition on your relationship by telling you he would marry you PROVIDED he can sort it out with his parents. That's really not saying much, unfortunately, because either he loves you and prizes his relationship with you enough to go ahead without their permission, or he's putting them ahead of you. He appears to be too afraid of alienating them.
What would you think about not keeping in touch, and perhaps even dating others? If he definitely decides he wants to marry you anyway, then he can always contact you sometime. By the way, the fact that it was only two months after breaking up and then calling you, is something to be treated with caution. It's a very quick (partial) change of mind.
Good luck!
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