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writes:Hi Cupid,Why is it whenever I'm around women who want to talk about intimate relationships, commitment etc. I suddenly feel an overwhelming sense of fatigue. It's almost like my body just shuts down based on the context or body language of the girl.I've felt this way for a number of years now but I don't remember always feeling this way around women. Now, if I'm around women who I consider friends of if it it's just conversations about anything else other than having interest in me I feel fine.I recently have begin to identify with being gay. Howver, technically I might really be bisexual bisexual because I use to like women but not so much anymore. Should I somehow in show way show interest in women these days I would need to be really really really really horny or watching porn possibly or something intense and even then it has a very little effect. It's more like a quick acknowledgement of the opposite sex then I'm over it. I'm starting to wonder if it's a defence mechanism of some sort because I had HORRIBLE experiences with girls growing up. I actually can't think of ever having a good experience with a girl unless we were friends and that's debatable. I even have a bad relationship with my narcissistic mother.Neither myself of the few people I opened up to could seem to indicate what the problem was, most friends just describe it a terrible case of bad luck. To be honest, many people describe me as not being a very lucky person. So I kinda stopped with girls and transitioned to boys and always liked boys anyways so it was easy.Of lately my feeling of fatigue is getting strong around girls these days even a while back I practically stumbled into someone because I felt faintness. Is this something other gay people can relate to or is it just me? Is this something that I can get treated or is it no big deal? What's the best way to address it?Let me know please. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2015): No matter how you identify yourself you need to start enjoying life. If the conversations start to cause what I would imagine to be a mental fatigue, end it. You used to like women may be because you were raised with biology like the rest of us. No teacher has yet to hand out reading assignments or give us projects on human sexuality. Maybe you are bisexual? I can't answer that. All I can say from what I've experienced is because we are raised a certain way not all of us automatically click and say, nah that's not right, that's not the way I am made. I thought I liked men, but after years of dating- which because it was all new to most of us it was like high school allover again where we are just deciding what we are attracted to. Now I am with a woman I could not imagine my life without.
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