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writes:"OPs Own title" So, I like this guy a lot. He likes me too, but he has a girlfriend of three years. I know that he feels bad for having feelings for me... I can't help but be attracted to him though! He says things about not knowing what will happen and how he doesn't try and make things happen because when he does it seems like his life goes wrong... So I don't know. I don't really know his girlfriend. I met her once? I just want to know if there is a chance that they will break up or if they'll stay together since they've already been together for three years. And they live together. But I know he likes me. He said if we'd met a few years earlier we'd be inseparable... And I feel horrible for even having feelings for a taken man, but I really like him. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): My boyfriend of four years started liking one of our colleagues as more than just friends. He sent her emails declaring his love for her and explaining how they had to "wait for the light at the end of the tunnel" to be together.We ended up breaking up and he tried to hook up with his ex-girlfriend, only to be rejected. So he started dating this other girl, but asked her to keep it a secret between them. Less than a month later he came back begging for me. Chances are, he will stay with his girlfriend. There is a reason that they have been together this long and their relationship is probably quite serious if they are living together. If he was serious about you he would have broken up with his girlfriend and would be courting you like any decent girl deserves.
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reader, Nikki-Bikki  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 From recent and current experience Im going to have to say that it doesn't sound like he wants to leave his Girlfriend.
If they've been together for three years then it looks as if they could be together another three it really depends on the guy and what type of person he is.
But if he can turn around on his girlfriend he has now and flirt and talk to you and even say that he likes you, then what type of man is he? Would you not have fears that he'd be doing the same thing to you three years down the track? We know it's unfair on the other girl, but it's also unfair on you, if he did want to try he'd fight for you or he'd fight for her, but he's not. I know it's easier said than done, but I really don't think he'd be worth the wait.
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