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writes: A few months ago I met a new guy from work who had moved here from London. We got on well but he had a girlfriend. We went out a few times as friends but we were both really attracted to each other. We talked about how much we liked each other and how he and his girlfriend had not been getting on for a few months. They had already decided to move back to London because they weren't getting on, and after we had been out a few more times his girlfriend began getting suspicious and they argued and eventually broke up. Before moving back to London 'together' he told me he loved me and I felt the same. He couldn't stay here, as he had signed a new contract with another firm. They are now sharing an apartment together in London as they couldn't get out of the lease, but he still tells me they hardly see each other etc. I now have a boyfriend who I really like but I can't get this other guy out of my head. We are still in touch and I really do love him but we just can't be together as we live so far away. I'm really confused as I dont know if I should end things with my boyfriend as I know nothing could happen with the other guy because of our situation. What do you think I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): First of all, for you to make a question on whether you should choose the one you can't have and the one you have now, I believe you should break-up with your now boyfriend nevertheless. Your emotions obviously are not strong enough for your now boyfriend. Yes, it is possible that you greatly desire the one you can't have because you cannot have him, masking your emotions for your now bf. However, it's still quite mentally/emotionally irresponsible for you to even consider this possibility.
End things with your now bf, then go for your true desires. You can't "really like" someone if your heart is somewhere else. Thinking and feeling are two different things.
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