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writes:Ok, so I wrote on here a couple of years ago when I was about to leave High School and didn't know what to do about my infatuation with my form tutor. We were great friends and he helped me through some personal issues.Fast forward to now and I have had no progress. I miss him so much and recently find myslef thinking about him 24/7, he's even in my dreams. I go back and see him ever few months, and he's always so happy to see me; hugs me, calls me babe, says I look great and we normally end up chating for an hour or so.Recently he sent me a message saying that something had reminded him of me and he just wanted me to know. I do love him, and I do care for him but I realise the situation is obviously doomed, but why does he still stay in touch, it makes it impossible for me to get over him. What should I do?Thanks xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): I typed in "Still can't forget her after two years," into google and this popped up.
As with my situation, it's an unfinished attraction.. Probably from both parties. You dream about him.. He tells you how you made your way into his thoughts during the day.
At least you're still in contact with him. You have two choices.
1) Believe that your situation is not doomed.. You still have a shot at something with him. Just make sure you know what you're getting into.. because long-term relationships require an enormous amount of time and effort.
2) Accept it and just believe that it's over, before it even started. Someone once told me that you never really forget people who have impacted your life strongly. I think what they said holds some merit, 'cause I still can't forget the girl who utterly ripped me apart. I don't have much advice here.. I can't even find the answer myself. I just try to keep myself occupied so I'll have no time to think about her.
Since this is completely ANON; from the bottom of my heart, give yourself the chance to get closer to him. Your relationship with him hasn't hit the wall yet.. I don't see what's keeping you two apart.
There is nothing more painful in this world than passing up someone or something, only to realize "what could have been" years later. Even to this day, I lie awake in the middle of the night just wondering, What if..?
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