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writes: I have been talking to this guy for 4 years. We stoped talking only because he was respecting the fact that I was in a relationship at the time, and I was a little too young (He didn't want my parents to be mad.) We just recently got back together April the second of 09. He asked me did I like kids, I mean I have 7 nephews and 2 nieces I better like kids lol. Well let me get to the point! He told me that he had a son that was eleven months, and I was cool with that because that was before we started dating. Soon after that he told me about how he wants a blood test, because the baby does not look like him and he said that his ex cheated on him with two different men. Now all of this seemed like it was a true story, but was it really? That's what I kept asking myself until recently I found out the truth. I was sitting in class and one of my classmates asked me was I going to treat his cousin right. I thought he was talking about my man so I said, "Why wouldn't I treat him right that's my baby?" He (the classmate) said no! His son! I said yes I love babies, but how old is his little boy? My friend said, "What do you mean how old is he? He's not even born yet." I couldn't do anything but replay our conversation over and over and over again in my head. I WAS IN SHOCK, PAIN, AND I FELT LIKE THE WHOLE WORLD HAD JUST CRASHED! My heart was pounding and it felt as if it was going to come out of my chest. Now I know that most of you guys are saying to yourself, why? It's just a boy! But I love him and he said that he loves me and that he does not want anything to do with his baby momma, and he also said that she was the biggest mistake ever. My heart wants me to stay but my flesh wants me to go. We are suppose to get married next year. WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO, PLEASE HELP ME.
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reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (13 May 2009):
 It is deplorable that this man would say the mother of his child "was the biggest mistake ever." Respect yourself, your values, and your feelings and trust your gut. I can only imagine what he might say about you to the next woman as a way to make them feel at ease.You are a young woman with immense potential. Hold your head up high and be true to your values.
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