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writes:Hi everyone.. I just have a simple question but rather confusing to me. I dont know if I should call him my boyfriend or just some guy i'm with. His 12 years older but I love him to bits and have loved him now for almost 4 years. A while ago I contacted his ex-wife I really wanted to hear her side of the story too. Anyways lately a few people at work have gotten married and I was wondering what happened to her ring. She told me he asked her for it she thought it was strange because she bought it herself but gave it to him in anyway. A few months later I managed to ask him well around cyber his on business overseas right now, the thing he said to me she gave it to him and its in a safe somewhere.. Would that actually mean anything if one keeps a ring? I know with me I had a different ring with my ex-boyfriend's but each time it ended bad and I would sell the thing.... Any help is cool .. Thanks
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reader, CaptainObvious  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 Have you asked him straight up why he kept it?
Could be simple laziness.
Reselling a ring is kind of a hassle, especially if it's of significant value.
On the bright side, it does indicate that he's financially stable.
If I had a valuable ring from an ex, I would have converted it to cash long ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell he never wanted to get married and she just kept asking him or rather begging him, she told me if she never asked him they never would have married, she bought the ring herself why got no clue. I was just wondering why he would have kept to now for about 5 years why not sell it or something. I'm just glad he never lied to me about it. The rings I I had through my exs' it was only two, I bought them myself to always remind myself about him when they broke things off with me I sold it.. Thinking about it i'm not wearing one now well seeing this guy.. Odd.. Do you think there is some sentimental value to his ex's ring?
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reader, CaptainObvious +, writes (21 December 2010):
Etiquette isn't just for Dear Abby and Ann Landers.
Historically, the man buys the ring and it only becomes the woman's upon marriage or promise of marriage, and if that promise is broken, the man gets the ring back.
In modern relationships, particularly amongst younger people, the ring is often either a joint purchase or is made by the person with the most discretionary income.
Why did she buy it and he kept it?
Dunno.
Perhaps they bought it together, but he was primarily supporting her, or she received some other high value item in the aftermath of the breakup.
Not really your business anyway.
He shouldn't be foisting the ring off on you either, since it's obviously not an heirloom.
It's odd that you would end up with all those rings, since I'm pretty sure you would have pointed it out if you had paid for them.
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