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writes:I'm 33 and I just went on a date with my 38 year old professor. It's against school policy. Should I sneek around and risk him getting fired or back off? We text everyday constantly and we really like each other. I offered to drop out of that school but he won't let me cause he wants to see me graduate. I hate secrets and this is killing me...but I like him so much!
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 I have had a similar experience, and I understand how frustrating it can be when you feel strongly about someone but are not able to act on it fully, or be publically affectionate and open.You do need to graduate. You may feel like it would be a valid option to drop out, it isn't a good one long-term.If this man feels strongly about you then he will wait until you graduate to pursue a relationship. If this love is real, then it will survive time and this barrier.You just have to be patient, and make sure that your interest in each other has nothing to do with the 'forbidden' aspect of the courtship.Ultimately, it is your decision and your life - but you need to factor in what is best for you as well. If he cares about you as strongly as it seems he will wait until you can begin a relationship outside of school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): If you two really do love eachother, then you both can wait, talk with him, being able to text will be more than enough to keep you both happy till you graduate and can date freely, it's an awful thing when things turn out bad, he cares about you enough to want you to graduate, but you have to consider him and his future, they can get into alot of trouble for dating a student. if your feelings are strong enough, you will pull through, and you will be together in the end and won't regret a thing and will be happy. texting would be fine, but just keep the physical contact outside and inside of class to a hault. when two people have a problem standing in the way of them being together, they're relationship is more stronger than those who have no problem being together. it may feel lonely, but in the end, you will be happy.
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reader, Ven +, writes (8 November 2010):
Graduate first, date later. If the two of you like each other, take it slow. Getting caught torches his career, and you dropping out torches yours.
If he is worth waiting for, then wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): try not to let any emotion drive your decision as it will possibly cloud your judgment. This is against school policy and you present yourself a great risk for him and yourself in violation therefore its imprudent to be involved. I would cut ties and perhaps try to seek out a different professor who teaches the same subject so that you dont have to worry about seeing him. Good luck.
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