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writes:I'm freaking out- I'm in love with a guy I hardly know after six months of dating I'm none the wiser. I've tried so hard to het him to trust me an open up- now it feels like I'm being pushed to end it because I don't know what to do. He says he loves me but his actions in our ldr seem so opposite. He is so positive and when we do see each other is so supportive and understanding but when we are not together we disconnect and I have such huge doubts that he does love me at all. I am no clearer now than when we first started dating... I'm so confused by my feelings and emotions- please advise? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): To keep a long distance relationship going you need to have plenty of contact in between. Talk to him about this, say how you feel and if he can't or won't give you what you want, finish it and find someone more local.
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reader, msm4ever  +, writes (6 October 2010):
Some people just aren't cut out for long distance relationships. I myself have recently gone through a similar situation. Feeling like the two of you share such a great connection and chemistry when you're together, and then wondering 'where did it go?' whenever he is gone.If he knows this is an issue for you, and still does nothing to try to bridge that gap while he is away, then perhaps it's time to weigh those age-old words of wisdom: "Actions speak louder than words." Although it is still relatively early in the relationship, it may be better to cut ties now before you wind up even more emotionally involved with this person.First and foremost, your own happiness and fulfillment should be you're top priority, and sounds to me as if you might be settling with this relationship. He is obviously not giving you everything you need- sure when you're together, it's great, but you obviously need more than that or else you would not be feeling this way.I have learned the hard way that I personally am not equipped to deal with an LDR. Unless that connection continues through the times of separation (through adequate emails, phone calls, etc); then you're basically being put on pause each time until he comes back- which can be pretty confusing.Trust your intuition. If you don't enjoy being held in thrall like that, cut him loose before you waste anymore time on him. Time that you could be using to focus and improve upon yourself, and time during which you could possibly meeting a man who is capable and willing to devote more time and attention to you.There is nothing wrong or selfish about having requirements and standards. If he is not able to devote enough time and affection or attention to you for whatever reason, then there's no reason to be with him.You deserve to be happy. Know what you want and need in a relationship and don't ever settle for anything less.Good Luck:)
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