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writes: I am 29 and have been married to my 27 year old wife for 5 years now and we have an 18 month old daughter. Even prior to us having our little girl our sex life was pretty bad, we would only have sex 3-5 times a year, and since the birth of our daughter we have had sex zero times. She states it is too uncomfortable for her and that it hurts (said the same thing prior to giving birth), she has seen a doctor but no helpful advice was received. I respect her decision and do not push her much about it, but at my age I am very frustrated because I need to be sexually active. How can I or we overcome this obstacle? When is it time to call it quits? I have heard such things as trying adult videos, etc..but know my wife would not go for it. Please help, I am desperate for some advice!! Thank you kindly in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2006): consult a specialist doctor
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Sorry to hear about your difficult situation. Please whatever you do....dont go down the adult video path. Many women are uncomfortable about their bodies (especially after kids).
If your wife already has issues making love then this could really upset her even more. Personally my m has nearly broken up over my h using these as I feel totally undesirable to him.
I would really recommend counseling. I know it will be hard talking to your wife but let her know how much you love her and long to be physically intimate with her.Hopefully she will value the marriage enough to see someone with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): There are natural sex enhancers for women on the market.
One of them is called Fermatril and it is taken orally once a day.
You might just want to research this yourself as they're are plenty of websites that might give you the information you're seeking.
Best of Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Thank you for the response. I have tried talking to her about it only to leave her either brushing it off or getting frustrated. I have heard of some drugs to boost the sex drive in women, do you know of any of them so I can try to research them prior to bringing it up to my wife? Thank you again for the reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): There are alot of other ways I'm sure your wife could please you. Manual or oral stimulation are two.
You need to discuss your needs to her about how you are feeling. It seems to me she has a very low sex drive and you a high one. Pretty common in most relationships. There are certain drugs on the market for women to boost their sex drive too. Sit down and discuss this with her and maybe also suggest going to see a therepist to help with her problem.
Good Luck
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