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writes:hey,i am with my boyfriend for 2 years,a few weeks ago we break up because i did a stupid thing..i lied him when i was hanging out with a guy..but that guy was just a friend,after that we were back together but now he sayd he loves me a lot but he is very cold and distant to me and he hang out everyday with his friends leaving me home,last night he said that he's kinda"bored"of me and he don't likes me anymore because i am not the same girl who was him falling in love with,but he also said that he really loves me and whises that our relationship will be okay..i told him i will do anything to make him happy and he said he don't like that i do anything because i am not a robot.he has no hope and he is always cold..please help us..i'm crying everyday trying to think at a solution ..help Reply to this Question
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 instead of saying you'll do 'anything' to make him happy, how about phrasing it like so "I want to make us right again, I want both of us to be happy with each other again" don't make it all about him because he sees it as robotic, like you said.
Make sure that when you talk about your relationship that you are talking about a relationship, not just his needs. A relationship involves two people, not just him and not just you.
Also, try to give him some space and see if he lightens up. Maybe once he realizes you aren't there as much he'll see what he had and should keep.
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