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writes:Is there any way I can turn down my ex without being rude and hurting his ego too much?Here's the background. I have realized now he has played with my feelings ever since he broke up with me some 6 months ago after I found out he cheated. I admit I am a fool as a month after that I contacted him again out of loneliness and he ignored me and treated me with disrespect on text, not that he calls me names but his responses were one-liners like I was some crazy girl. He never does that during our relationship so I know he was being rude to me.Somehow, he calms down a bit after a week or two and he intinitates contact then when I reply, he wont reply back. Then later he tells me, he broke up with the new girl. He begs me to see him and as I still love him, I did. We almost got back but within the week he changes his mind and tells me to leave him alone. I follow his wishes, then he contacts me again.The fool that I am, each time he contacts me..I reply so fast..then he wont reply back. So I made a decision to stop this. I can't be used like this forever. He is abusing my feelings and my kindness. I am kinda successful now and is much stronger but here he goes again...just today he was calling me but I didn't pick up the phone.What should I do? I feel I dont' want him as much anymore but there is still these little feelings for him. He is so good in ignoring me, and he never cared if I cry with blood. I should be the same..shouldn't I? I am not for revenge, so I also think I should send him a note to tell him to stop this. I feel like it will be rude of me to disappear from him when I already said we are ok and that we are still friends. He played with me before but I am not doing that as I want him to get my message straight and not give mixed signs. At the same time, I dont want him to get hurt.I don't know how to deal with this. Pls advise..thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGirls, thanks so much for your opinions and advises.
Really, if you only know...this site has helped me a lot while going through this stage in my life. I have to admit, people like you have unknowingly made me open up my eyes to the naked truth. And with this, I can make decisions that are right.
Really appreciate it. Thanks again.
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reader, girlygirl2009 +, writes (24 September 2009):
Be stright with him and tell him how you feel. Guys love to say how confusing girls are so just be stright so he knows where you stand!
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