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*issyLaLa
writes:I work away on a mine site. I work away from home for 2 weeks at a time. I met this wonderful guy, called 'Matt' about 3 months into my job. He had noticed me as soon as I started and telling my friends he really liked me. I ended up giving him my number and we talked and messaged a lot. about a week after talking to him over the phone, I met up with him, it's hard on a mine site, as a lot of gossip goes around, so we restricted it just to our rooms for catch up, which was my idea. And i wanted it to remain a secret or on the lowdown. He kept his word and has never given me any reason not to trust him. We talked everyday on the phone, while I am at work, but I don't contact him when I am on break and same with him (we are on different breaks at the moment). He has asked when we have our next break off together but I told him that break I was going overseas already, before I even listened to what he was going to suggest. He is a really sweet guy, and I think he really cares for me too. I'm falling heads over heels for this guy, which is the last thing I was looking for coming out to a mine-site, and I don't know whether I should tell him how I feel? I'm scared he wont feel the same way and I will be devastated...did I mentioned I am 27 and he is 24, I am Australian and he is Irish working in Australia for a little while...but not forever. I still don't know exactly how this all happened and I was never looking for love out here, so I am tempted just to run away from it all...I have to offered a transfer to another mine-site. The only reason I would stay is because of him...should I tell him how I feel?
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reader, EtTuBrute  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Of course you should tell him how you feel! This could be the beginning of something beautiful. If he feels the same way, you should give it a chance.
Long-distance relationships can be rough but eventually one person has to move if you want to stay together. However, you're not even ready to think about that at the moment. You need to know if he feels the same way first. My advice is to simply talk to him. Once you know how he feels, you can go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): I understand your feeling anxious about this but being head over heels for a guy is not something you should runaway from. Remember he told your friends that he liked you? So why should you be scared in telling him how you feel? If he really is the kind of guy that you mention then he should understand and not be a prick about it. Furthermore, if you transfer to another site and not tellin him, how is he gonna feel about that? He may be hurt or worse yet he could even hate you in which case you should make sure you cut full contact with him.
Think clearly about each scenario possible and draw up advantages and disadvantages to each.
Good luck.
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