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writes:my ex boyfriend and I broke up just over a month ago now.we were in a very close and serious relationship, we loved each other very much and always had fun together.we didnt break up because of arguments or cheating, basically its because our relationship would have turned long distance in a few months and i could not handle this due to previous bad long distance experience.we have remained close friends since breaking up, always texting (sometimes more than when we were together) and we still see each other a lot. nothing has happened sexually since the break up.i miss him so much though, and when we hug i always wish he would kiss me and tell me he still loves me.i still care for him deeply and i know he cares about me too, but we have both put on a pretty strong front through all of this and although i miss him as my boyfriend i havent mentioned this to him in case he now prefers us just being friends.part of me wonders whether he feels the same and doesnt want to ruin our friendship even though he still likes me as more than a friend? would he have told me by now though?being in this situation has made me rethink things, i do believe i could give the long distance thing ago, i know i need to tell him this, but im scared of rejection.do you think we still have a chance together from what i have described? and do you think i should tell him how i feel and risk losing him as a friend? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): I think you should give it a go and tell him how you feel. It sounds like he really does still care about you; even if he rejects you, your friendship wont be at risk. As strong as he may act about it, chances are, he misses you just as much as you miss him. If your relationship was going so well before you broke up due to distance, then its very likely that hes thinking the same thing and is afraid to bring it up. Guys dont just suddenly stop loving a girl because of a peaceful breakup (as i like to call it, when theres no fighting involved), even if he is acting strong. So if you dont see obvious signs of affection, dont let that unnerve you; he might very likely be trying to make your choice easier for you. good luck, id love to hear how it goes if you decide to tell him how you feel 3apache-cat
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reader, Deisy..  +, writes (6 August 2009):
Follow your feelings, if you really need to tell him the way you fell,do it because you'll never know if you could be together again if you don't risk.
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