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writes:I dated this guy for over a month and the we became friends with benefits. He just told me last night that he cheated on me while we were dating. I was outraged and said a lot of mean things. I don't think i can stay friends with him, i still have feelings for him. my sister suggested to find another guy to get over him. what do you suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): I agree with your sister 100%. Of course, you can't remain friends with him. You need to get over him quickly and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): Give yourself time to heal...DO NOT get involve with anyone else until you are over your ex and when I say over, I mean OVER. If you do, you will end up hurting the next guy...and what if that guy you hurt turns to be a really great guy? Then what? So, don't take your sister's advice...DO NOT DATE UNTIL YOU GET OVER YOUR EX.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): You still have feelings for this guy so give yourself time to get over it. Also you might like to think about whether friends with benefits really suits you, as your emotions would obviously jump on board. Maybe better to make a clean break altogether.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): I can understand your sister's logic. She probably thinks that if you find a new guy, you will forget about your ex and feel okay again. But it doesn't always work like that. It could get messy, if you got involved with someone else while still harbouring feelings for the other guy. And it might be difficult for you, if you are upset and feeling vulnerable.
I think you should give yourself time to heal, rather than pressuring yourself to jump into a new relationship. Your emotions are still very raw, and it isn't always wise to react to strong emotions like that. I would suggest you wait for a while until all your feelings have calmed down a little, and until you have sorted things out in your own mind. Wait until you feel calmer before deciding on anything. Take care. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): I suggest you don't pursue anything with someone else until you've dealt with your feelings, you'll just end up hurting the new guy or getting more hurt yourself.
Anger and resentment are not the best emotions to begin a new relationship with.
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