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Should I stick this LDR out another 5 years until we can be together/

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Question - (3 April 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 3 April 2010)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

What should I do? I am in a long distance relationship due to military and family commitments.Here is my delemia. We have been with each other on and off for 3 years. He is in another state from me. He was planning on retiring and coming here this summer.He would have been closer to his kids.Well now his ex wife has decided to move to the midwest area with the kids and her new boyfriend.Now he might stay in the military longer so to pay bills and to be closer to his kids.They will be 4 and half hours away. We have dicussed my kids and I moving there.But, my kids are older high school age and I have a ex husband that would fight me if I leave.If I stay here .I am looking at at least 5 more years here before I can move I do not want to take my kids out of school in their high school years. Should we just keep the long distance relationship and hope it lasts for 5 more years? I also am adding .we are in a exclusive relationship, no dating other people .

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010):

This may be hard for you to stomach, but as a member of the military, I typically discourage civilians from keeping a relationship with another military member. Why, you might ask? Simply because 1) the partner in the military almost always ends up cheating and being unfaithful, even if it was only once (this can also work vice-versa) and 2) a good relationship relies on having the person physically there for the both of you to share experiences with and to grow as a couple-have a stronger bond. While he may not have committed #1, #2 is crucial to a strong relationship. I see relationships end all around me, everyday, because of our lifestyle and our environment.

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