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*amphia
writes:Well, where to begin.... i met D almost 3 yrs ago online and we fell in love it was a great relationship everything i could ever dream of in a man, he was. It was a long distance relationship. Then cos of him having to study so much in med school and health issues with his mother... we started seeing less and less of each other still we kept in touch and still loved each other. I was very lonely and he wasnt there at all for me. Weeks would pass and i wouldnt hear from him. After a year of off and on contact with him i got tired and started talking to other men. Nothing serious. D came back to me this pass June and I was in heaven. We were happy and very close once again for 2 months. Then once again he became distant and again i felt like he left our love for whatever reasons he had. That when i met N. We started talking and learned we had an amazing connection. I stopped hurting and we have been together for 2 months now. D found out and now wants me to give "us" another chance. He wants me to leave N for him. I dont know what i should do? I love D but i know he will make me hurt again. Is he worth the risk? Or should i be safe and stay with N who i just met recently. Help!
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reader, Samphia +, writes (11 February 2009):
Samphia is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you! That was so helpful and in many ways just how im thinking... Only thing is that N knows most of what is happening with D and he is being sorta of distant himself... Now is when i really needed him to show me he loves me and for some reason hes not... I do know the longer I wait to end things with N the less chance ill have to be with D.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 i think u gave D his chances and u should let N take hold for a while. He is new and exciting and the worst that can happen is it doesn't work out. From the sounds of it D would hurt u again or just become distant, again. I would take the safe route rather than the tried and true 'gonna suck' route. If you are unhappy with one go for the other. Also take into consideration which one has that SPARK! the pull that makes u want one more than the other. When I ask questions of this nature, not nessesarily about boys but in general 'which one!?', i have an answer in mind and i just want justification because eitherway there will be guilt and feelings of 'did i make the right choice?' Listen to your gut as it it never wrong. Only you know best.
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