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writes: Hey,Well I was going out withh my girlfriend for around 19 months. Things were good, except at the end I guess it got kinda bland ? Aruge over shit things. Anyway, we / she decided we should break up and stay friends for a bit. Problem is however, we live 500 M away from each other, so its kinda hard to go even 1 day without seeing her, even thou we are broken up. She says its temporary, but wont promise getting back together which I understand. However problem is that I still want to be with her. Every time we spend time together, it is really hard. On top of that, what I am mainly worried about is when she goes out. She goes out on the weekends when she can, and she tells me she isnt interested in anyone. While we are broken up, we both said we are not interested in moving on. Me on the other hand, I rarely go out as most my friends are not the clubbing type, + I am not really a drinker. I feel because I dont go out, and she does, she will move on while I will be left behind. I also have more stress from uni, to achieve a certain grade to stay in my course, which takes up alot of my time. But thats proberly me I feel if i cut contact with her, she will move on and forget about me. Because we said we should stay friends and see what happens, i am just confused. I / we (not 100% about her,..) find it hard to go a day without seeing each other. Is it normal to want to cling on in the hope something changes...SHould I move on, with the excepection of not getting back together.. should I wait.. should I care..I dont know what to do =[ I hope I am clear enough
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reader, Iloveribbons  +, writes (19 August 2009):
At the moment things are quite raw and I think perhaps maybe she is trying out life without you but she wants to hold onto you at the same time just in case she doesn't like the new single life. I think you should make it clear to her that she wanted to end the relationship so now you are completely walking away. This will completely shake her into realising what her decision means.
You have to actually get out of her life though before she ca miss you. Make her see what life will be like without you.
Hope it works.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Thought I might add, we are still "best friends", as I can tell her anything, and feel extreamly comfortable with her. Its just I want more then friendship with here....
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