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writes:My ex boyfriend and I had been together off and on throughout college, but drugs often found their way between us. We are both at fault. At graduation, we spent on last night together and then I flew back to Los Angeles and it was over. We kept in contact lightly, but he could not handle the distance and claimed he wasn't in love anymore. We don't talk anymore.5 months later, I have tried and tried and tried to move on, whether it be with another man or alone, single. I find myself still overwhelmingly in love, but the ex and I do not talk anymore, save twice out of concern for the recent wild fires. I do not want to lose this opportunity, he is for sure the man I want to marry, and I am willing to move across the US for him. But how do I tell him I want him back and want to move back (east)? Is this something I should get hypnotized for or something?
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reader, rockelle +, writes (8 November 2007):
 I do not think that your giving consideration to relocating has any thing to do with how you feel about yourself. You are in love with him. He said that the distance was why you guys broke up. With that being said I want you to think about the fact that you will be the one taking all the risk if you were to relocate. There is always the chance that things will not work out. But on the other hand if you do not make the effort you will always wonder what would have, or could have happened. I think that you should express to him how you feel and how serious you are about making this relationship work. But prepare yourself for the reaction that can go either way. Personally, I would not do it. But that is a decision for you to make. All long distance relationships end with someone either relocating or a break-up.
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reader, Kait  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 If he says that he isn't in love anymore, then I'd stay right where you are. You come across as an articulate and intelligent person and you deserve much better.Why create such upheavel in your life if he won't do the same for you?
Give yourself time to get over him, occupy yourself with new hobbies or interests and you will be okay, once you do that you will realise that you don't need him anymore. There are so many great guys out there that deserve you. This guy is not one of them. Sorry to be so harsh but it's true!!
Maybe you should go to a counsilling? you seem to have a low self worth.
I really hope this helps, best of luck X
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